(The following content may not be suitable for viewers under 15.)
(Viewer discretion is advised.)
We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries. - National Competition on Worries.
We'll introduce you to our guests.
He's known for his angelic smile.
He's back with a solo album. It's Son Ho Young.
(Son Ho Young)
- Moon Ji Ae. - Moon Ji Ae.
Choi Yoo Jung and Zhou Jie Qiong.
(Yoo Jung and Jie Qiong of I.O.I)
(Men are going wild.)
- Is it because of them? - Yes.
- My ears hurt. - It's really annoying.
Why are you screaming like this?
We also have Psychiatrist Jeong Woo Yeol.
(Jeong Woo Yeol)
- I.O.I. - Today, we have...
a lot of male audience because of I.O.I.
They're really popular these days.
Ho Young, when did you debut?
- January of 1999. - 1999?
Hold on, I.O.I.
- Yoo Jung and Jie Qiong... - When were you born?
- I was born in 1999. - I was born in 1998.
(They were born in 1999 and 1998.)
Yoo Jung, were you born in 1999?
Well...
- Do you remember Jae Min? - Yes.
- She's the same age as him. - Really?
(Jae Min and Yoo Jung are the same age.)
- Is Jae Min really that old? - Yes. He's 19 years old.
You must have a lot of charms.
When you're new, you tend to show many talents.
I hear your fans love it when you wink.
- Can you show us? - Please show us.
(Show us your charms.)
(Winking)
Hello, I'm so shy shy shy
(Keep it up.)
("Dream Girls" by I.O.I)
(They automatically cheer...)
(for these cute and confident girls.)
(She's amazed).
(They are dream girls indeed.)
(It's I.O.I!)
(We wish you all the best.)
Ho Young, how many years has it been since your last solo album?
Five years.
- Really? - It's been five years.
It's about time you ran out of money.
I know, right?
That's not it. The new album of g.o.d came out.
- That's right. - Yes.
You performed as g.o.d for a while.
- What's the title of the song? - "My Weak Point".
"My Weak Point"? It sounds good.
I don't think Ji Ae would have any weaknesses.
- Me? - You're so perfect.
No. I have a weakness that really interferes with my life.
I'm directionally challenged.
Directionally challenged?
I'm directionally challenged, too.
- I can't go back on the same road. - Me neither.
Same with me.
- I'd die without a GPS. - Right.
I have to hold onto it while I'm walking.
I can't find my family's graveyard.
Same with me.
- How... - Really?
What's amazing is that Woo Yeol is in charge of...
- taking care of the kids. - Is he in charge?
I'm not sure if it's because I took a year off to care for my eldest.
I even experienced postpartum depression.
(He even went through depression.)
I'm a psychiatrist but I suffered depression.
It's hard because the kid chose to do things only with me.
Isn't he the best husband?
I'd love to meet someone like him. Do you have a brother?
I have a sister.
- He has a sister. - Okay.
I bet he has a brother. He just made it up.
(It feels like a lie.)
He wants to protect his brother.
(My instincts told me to lie.)
Last week, "Let's Break Up" won for the fifth time.
I wonder which worry will get its first win.
There's a special prize for the winner, right?
We will give the winner a 1,000 dollars gift certificate.
I wonder what worries came in today.
Show us the keywords please.
"Pay Attention to Me".
"Where Is Your Father?"
"I'm a Fighter".
Yes.
- What's up with our audience? - Those keywords sound scary.
Why are they over reacting?
They probably know someone who's like them.
They could relate.
Hello. I'm a 27-year-old woman...
who has been married for three years.
After passionately falling in love, we even got to have a child.
I want to nullify this marriage.
My husband won't pay any attention to me.
He hardly looks after his family.
All he does is...
- to look at his phone all day. - He's obsessed.
People say that most men end up...
treating their pregnant wives very well.
My husband wouldn't move an inch from the bed.
He would keep on calling me to run errands.
"Honey, give me food."
"Honey, I want some fruits."
"Honey, get me some water."
"Hurry up."
- She's pregnant, though. - He does play games on his phone.
You must wonder what he does.
It's really popular these days. The one person online broadcast...
called "America Television".
"America Television." Americans have the best shows.
He watches games, sports...
and popular channels all day long.
He's addicted.
"Honey, let's have dinner with your mum tomorrow."
"Are you listening to me?"
"We're having dinner with your mum tomorrow."
"I told you not to talk to me when I'm on the phone!"
Why is he getting mad?
"Okay. I have to take shower. Can you look after the baby?"
"No! Put the baby to sleep before taking shower."
It's hard to communicate with him, and he doesn't help out...
with the housework nor the child raising either.
Even when our 3-year-old son was in the hospital...
"Honey, watch this. This is hilarious!"
"Honey, we're at a hospital. Our son's sick. Just put it away."
- That's really bad. - Should I keep living with him?
Please help me fix my husband.
(Help me fix my husband!)
These days, many of us depend on our smartphones too much.
We'll hear the story from the wife.
Come on out.
(Who is the woman that has a smartphone addicted husband?)
(Kim Su Hyun)
It doesn't make sense that someone would ask...
- their pregnant wife for errands. - It's ridiculous.
Even when I was almost due, he told me to bring food to bed.
When I put it away, he ordered me to bring fruits and water.
There's more. When we were about to go out,
he ran to the passenger seat...
so he could play with his phone.
- The passenger seat? - He can't play if he drives.
- When you were almost due? - Yes.
My stomach was about to touch the handle while I was driving.
Is he exceptionally handsome?
How is that possible?
When I had the baby, I was in labour for eight hours.
Even then, he was playing games.
My goodness.
What about at the moment of giving birth?
I was giving birth so I'm not sure.
- You didn't get to see. - No.
What does he do and how much time does he spend on it?
He watches baseball games and video game shows.
He watches these often.
He looks for his phone first thing in the morning.
- His phone? - He's addicted.
When he's washing up, he takes it in to listen with it.
- Really? - Does he listen to the game shows?
Yes. I wake up at 6:30am to make his breakfast.
- At the table, - You're so nice.
he would put his phone on the side and watch as he eats.
He'll walk out while holding onto his phone.
When he comes home, he'll still be holding his phone.
His eyes are fixed on the phone?
Then he keeps it with him during dinner and washing up.
- What about when he sleeps? - He's on it from 8pm to 12am.
Then he sleeps with it.
- While he's watching it? - Yes.
He doesn't watch it when he's driving, right?
He leaves it on his dashboard.
- He drives like that? - That's dangerous.
- Like a GPS? - That's why I drive.
I know that's what he'll do.
Whatever you do, he won't help you, right?
- Raising your child or chores... - No.
Not at all.
Doesn't he feel bad? Why won't he help?
- Maybe preparing the milk... - Most dads change diapers...
- and feed their kids. - That's right.
I had to do the dishes, so I told him to feed our son.
I mixed the formula and...
- He should feed him. - gave the bottle to him.
I almost fainted when I finished the dishes.
- Why? - He had his phone in one hand...
and the bottle in the other.
The milk was all over the baby. It was on his clothes...
- and blankets. - Who would do that?
Was the baby on the floor?
He held the baby like this with his phone.
- Isn't that dangerous? - I was stunned.
I yelled at him because the baby could have chocked.
He said he had no idea.
If I were you...
- That's really bad. - If you were that upset,
you should've gotten rid of his phone.
I took it from his hands and he got mad at me.
- Did he get serious? - Yes.
I told him the baby will learn from you.
I asked him if he's really a father.
He said, "You're right. Ji Woo doesn't look like me."
"We should do a DNA test."
He would say such things.
- What is that? - I'm sure it was a joke.
You shouldn't joke about things like that.
One good thing is that he's not playing with it now.
I was worried about that actually.
Hello there.
Hello.
- The claps are... - Nice to meet you.
They won't clap for you.
Is it hard for you to not look at your phone?
You're addicted, right?
My hands feel so awkward.
I want to see it. I looked at it a few times during the shoot.
- Does it make you happy? - Good for you.
I guess it became a habit.
Don't you think it has gone too far?
Do you admit that you're addicted?
I don't think it's bad enough...
to come out on Hello and be talked about.
I don't think it's that bad.
- You're wrong. - It's that bad.
If you did that to your baby, it's a problem.
It's the same thing as us taking a peek while on camera.
- Really? - While we're hosting.
If I feed the baby like this,
he could have eaten well.
(Are you kidding?)
- But he was all wet. - My goodness.
He tends to be reckless with his words.
I think he wants to be a witty talker...
- but it's getting him in trouble. - Yes.
It would have been better if he was bad with words.
He tries to win over me all the time.
- He's so cunning. - He really is.
Rather than being good with words...
- You can ask questions. - She was in labour, right?
Most husbands let their wives pull their hair out.
How can you even think about looking at your phone?
I packed my hat first.
What?
I packed a hat so that it won't happen to me.
There he goes again.
Why should I go through the pain?
If you were in front of me, I would've...
- Gosh. - My goodness.
You came to win, didn't you?
No. I'm just being honest.
- Is he always like that? - Why did you wear a hat?
- So your hair won't be pulled out? - I heard it from so many people.
- I took it for defence. - Defence?
- Hold on. - How could you look at your phone?
I just could.
Gosh.
I was in the waiting room, right?
This was during her labour.
- You should take it easy. - But...
I was nervous, too.
Unconsciously, I was looking at my phone.
It's like a habit.
- You were nervous. - Those internet broadcasts...
often use harsh expressions.
Does he listen to it on his own?
I told him to use earphones since he watches a lot.
You asked him.
After watching those shows, he started imitating them...
at a certain point. One time,
I prepared an amazing meal for him.
When I tell him that I'm such a good wife, he goes...
- Just say it. - "You crazy little..."
He says it like a joke.
- He acts as if it's nothing. - He says that as a joke?
My goodness.
- Why did you swear at her? - Why did you swear?
The hosts on those shows often swear.
Then the audience would comment and say that they loved it.
I say it to my wife as a sign of intimacy.
That's wrong.
- He thought she would like that. - Seriously?
How do you feel...
when you're not looking at your phone? Do you feel nervous?
I haven't stopped looking so I'm not sure.
I think I'd feel empty.
What about now?
I'm a person, too. Since I'm talking to you,
it's not bothering me right now.
You're really humane.
Why don't you talk to your wife more at home?
I understand that you two are very close,
but saying that at home means you're looking down on her.
- It's... - That's the problem.
He was always with his phone and that's why he has...
- no idea what it's like without it. - Exactly.
My in-laws told me...
- that he was addicted to games. - I see.
They told me he turned on his computer as soon as he got home.
After our marriage, I thought he would quit playing games.
Then I noticed he was coming home late.
I know what time he finishes work.
I caught him one day.
He went to an internet cafe to play games for two hours.
It gets worse.
When the internet cafe closed,
he bought the computer he always used in the cafe.
- Because of the games? - Yes.
Since then, he plays games when he gets home...
or whenever he has a chance.
When he gets tired, he would lie down and watch shows.
What do you think about the story so far?
- Yoo Jung and... - Jie Qiong.
If I were her, I would have gotten a divorce already.
(I'd get a divorce.)
My goodness.
(The audience agrees.)
Did you really play a lot of games when you were young?
I'd consider myself an addict.
I used to play over 15 hours a day.
I paid about 10,000 dollars to make it more fun.
That was before marriage?
I used to live like that. When I got married,
I didn't think it was right.
- Good. - Is that why you switched?
Yes. I naturally moved to my smartphone...
and it came to this.
To be honest...
She said she'd get a divorce. If there wasn't a child,
- it's a possibility. - I agree.
Imagine what would happen if this continues.
She could ask for a divorce.
My son wants to play with him even if he's on the phone.
Then my husband tries to keep him busy with one hand.
He acts like he's playing with him. The baby...
just gave up on him. He's just a baby.
Does the baby...
A baby gave up on his dad?
Does he still watch the channels with strong language...
- while holding the baby? - I'm curious.
- No way. - He watches those with him.
- Those channels? - Yes.
- He left the volume on? - When my son...
gets frustrated, he would say, "Shoot."
Then later on, he ended up saying a bad word.
- He's three! - He's only three.
- Yes. - That's troubling.
I know it happens unconsciously but kids pick it up.
- This is really serious. - What are your thoughts on this?
I should turn it down a bit.
Does it occur to you that maybe you shouldn't watch it?
I'll turn it down so he can't hear it.
What if your son ends up...
watching at his phone all day just like you?
If he wants to, then I guess he will.
- You're driving me crazy. - This is serious.
There are so many mums that are worried about swearing children.
The tactic I've been telling them...
is to shut out anyone that swears around them.
- Of course. - You should shut him out.
It's a choice you have to make.
The kid's learning swear words from those shows.
There was a photograph of Dong Yeob's son online.
He was staring at mannequins with swim suits on.
You have to be careful.
- It's an instinct. - Yes, even kids...
Friends of our guest are here. Let's meet them.
Hello.
Can you understand her worry?
It's more than just understanding it.
One time, she helped me to get a taxi...
after I visited her place.
Since it's a small neighbourhood, everyone knew each other.
I was talking to the driver on my way home.
He said, "Her husband needs to be more mature."
"He needs to come to his senses."
- The driver said that? - Really?
Yes, he was a neighbourhood driver.
Even their neighbours felt sorry for her.
I think it's a huge worry.
It's true that he's childish...
and his speech tends to be annoying.
However, he doesn't look like a bad person.
- Not at all. - No.
- I don't think he's bad. - He's not a bad person.
Su Hyun wouldn't have married him if he were a bad guy.
When I say hello to him as I enter the house,
he doesn't notice it because he is looking at his phone.
That happens.
I don't know if he thinks this is a joke,
but he says with a smile that he must have done good deeds...
in his past life while Su Hyun didn't.
(My wife must not have done good deeds in her past life.)
(Anxious)
He said that with a smile.
He said that because Su Hyun does everything for him.
- What is wrong with him? - I am sure it was a joke,
but it does leave us with an odd feeling.
He takes my sacrifice for granted.
He is shameless.
(He is shameless.)
- It's just... - Think about it.
If I were her, I would be really upset.
Her husband didn't even greet her friend...
when she visited the house.
I forget my surroundings when I am focused. It's only natural.
Let's say it was your boss.
Let's say you didn't see him because your focus was elsewhere.
You didn't even say hello to him. Would you be okay with that?
- He can say hello to me first. - What?
- He can say hello to me first. - You want your boss to do that.
- My goodness. - Well... Think about it.
- He is just... - I think I have a point.
- You are missing the point. - Why do I need to say hello first?
Think about it.
I see that everyone is unfamiliar with this kind of conversation.
I am used to it.
Conversations usually go this way when I talk with teenagers.
- I see. - Teenagers?
It makes sense.
- He is immature. - He is experiencing puberty.
- He is like that. - He is immature.
He knows that he is in the wrong,
but dodges the blame by picking at every word.
Even when your husband is at home, call your friends over...
and have a party. He probably wouldn't care.
I once went to my parents' place for three days.
However, he didn't even call me.
I went back to the house because my parents were worried.
I could tell that he played games on his phone...
from the way he brought out a charger.
It made me wonder what I am to him.
I thought, "I don't deserve this treatment."
I couldn't help but have such thoughts.
He didn't ask about the child.
No. I always take my child with me when I go out.
He likes it because it's less work for him.
- Gosh. - Did you really do that?
Did you play games when your wife left with the child?
- Did you know that they were gone? - Did you like it?
(Laughing)
- Did you even notice it? - Did you know?
Please stop joking around and speak from your heart.
Taking care of the child stressed her out.
Her parents live nearby,
so I thought she went there to take a break.
So you enjoyed your time at home.
She must have been mad before she left the house.
You were not concerned about that.
A child has difficulties forming attachments...
to a distant father.
Does the child like your husband?
My son is not at all close to his father.
- What? - Really?
I would leave the house for a second to take the trash out.
When I come back, my son would be crying while banging on the door.
- He doesn't like his father. - No, he doesn't.
When I asked, "Why didn't you look after him?"
He said, "You are the one he wants."
When their son grows up and becomes a teenager,
the situation will worsen.
When children become adolescents,
most fathers try to help by interacting with them...
because they have more free time around that time.
- It would be too late then. - Not only that,
they would do the exact opposite of what their fathers wish.
Adolescents won't listen to someone they don't like.
- You are right. - How do his words make you feel?
We think this is a serious situation.
That's why I took my family to an amusement park last week.
- Good job. - I felt a bit...
- You felt bad. - Yes, I felt bad.
His sudden change made me very happy.
I thought he was beginning to care about his son.
He told me he would be back after smoking a cigarette.
The baby and I waited in the heat for 30 minutes in vain.
I went to go find him.
He was in the smoking room.
He was looking at the phone while smoking a cigarette slowly.
He didn't even realise that time has passed.
I decided then that I will never go anywhere with him.
- He is incredibly immature. - I went to the amusement park...
to make my family happy.
I thought they would be understanding.
I don't get it. He looks so reliable.
Have you ever thought to converse and apologise honestly?
Don't you want to do that?
- That would hurt my pride. - I knew he would say that.
Living like that would make me a lesser man.
He has that mindset.
There is no need to think that.
It's wrong for you to think that you will become a lesser man.
Don't try to win over your wife.
I think you need to take a hard line.
You shouldn't let him be.
When I talk to him,
it feels like I am talking to a wall.
Two years ago right before my son's first birthday,
my husband was laid off from work.
Because we had no income,
I worked at a cafe in the day and ran a food truck at night.
- Really? - Yes.
We successfully held his first birthday party.
- However... - You didn't have a lot of money.
This is what happened.
We had to set up an instalment savings account under his name.
We had no choice but to use money from that account.
I didn't know what to do.
(She felt bad as a mother.)
"Why can't I give nice things to my son?"
However, since my husband was not working,
he spent an entire day looking at his phone.
For how many months did he not work?
From October to March.
- It must have been hard on her. - Did you struggle the most then?
We had no source of income. To pay for baby formula,
I had to go outside and work.
(She had to be the mother and the head of the family.)
(It must have been hard.)
Your wife worked day by day to make money...
for the baby formula. In this kind of situation,
most fathers would find a job.
- I wanted to work. - Then what happened?
I just didn't see it through.
Were you embarrassed?
Yes, I was embarrassed.
(His pride was the hindrance.)
(He doesn't know what is important to him.)
Since you sent us a worry,
you must have a lot of thoughts.
What worries you the most?
I am studying to become a certified beautician.
- A certified beautician. - That's right.
I will start working soon.
So I need my husband to participate in the childcare.
When I think about the future,
I see myself doing chores,
my son playing games in his room...
and my husband looking at his phone.
I only see a family without conversations in the future.
- I agree. - I hope that...
even a small change will come to my husband...
after visiting the show.
- Even a small change will count. - Your wife...
- is the best. - You are lucky to have her.
- It's thanks to his past life. - Su Hyun looks after him.
When your wife finds a job after much preparation,
will you participate in childcare and chores?
You should help her.
I should help a bit, right?
From the way I look at it,
your eyes turned teary, too. You are distressed...
and about to shed tears.
I never had...
such an honest conversation with my wife.
I had no idea how she felt.
- You didn't know... - You need to talk with her.
because you took her sacrifice for granted.
I have a solution for this problem.
Addicts always find something to be addicted to.
He started with games and is now addicted to smartphones.
He now needs to be addicted to rearing a child.
- Really? - Yes.
If he develops a good addiction,
he will come to enjoy looking after his son.
- Is that possible? - Of course it is.
He just needs to do it.
Let me ask him this.
What is family to you?
They are my companions in life I will always be with.
Nothing lasts forever without effort these days.
That's why I asked my wife...
- What did you ask? - to never divorce me.
(For goodness' sake.)
For goodness' sake.
(Please stop talking.)
- Is he a primary schooler? - He just...
Even though he says that...
- What else did he say? - He also said,
"If you really want a divorce,"
"leave without our son." That's what he said.
He is like a little child.
- My goodness. - This is unbelievable.
(My goodness.)
Honey,
I am not asking you to never touch your phone.
If you want to spend four hours on the phone,
please spare two hours on your family.
I wish you would put some time into improving yourself.
I ask for nothing more.
I will try harder,
so I hope that you will, too.
- You don't need to try harder. - Seriously.
You don't need to try harder.
Both parties need to try hard to make a relationship work.
Get him one of those old 2G phones.
(Good idea.)
- That's a good idea. - My goodness.
- Don't use your phone so much. - That's right.
Let's start with Ho Young.
All right. I think it's a worry.
What did you think?
Don't you see the way everyone is judging you?
Think about what that means.
You should think about what their stares mean.
- Ji Ae. - I also think...
it's a serious worry.
I want to pay my respect to this wonderful woman.
I think it's a worry.
Even though he knows his problems,
he is unbelievably shameless.
Seriously.
(We agree with you.)
I also think...
- it's a worry. - It's a worry.
I think it's a worry.
From Su Hyun's point of view,
the relationship will feel like that of a mother and a son.
It will feel as if you are raising another son.
(Please be a reliable husband from now on.)
If you think it's a worry...
I am telling you that this worry will win.
Please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
My goodness.
- Five, four, three, two, one. - Five, four, three, two, one.
- Time's up. - All right.
Please say a few words to your wife.
I will help with looking after the child...
and spend more time on personal development...
so that we can live happily.
Don't be vague with your words. Give us a concrete plan.
Tell her that you'll be a reliable man from now on.
I arrive home around 8pm.
- I will first play with my son. - Play with him.
After spending some time with him,
I will use the phone for 30 minutes.
- What? No way. - Come on.
That's too extreme. You can't keep that promise.
Don't make a promise you can't keep.
When he said 30 minutes, everyone yelled, "No!"
Make it longer!
- This never happened before. - It's impossible.
Don't make such promises.
How about he gets two hours after doing what he needs to do?
- Two hours will be his free time. - That's good.
What do you say? You need to wear earbuds.
After putting your son to bed, use the phone for two hours.
(After putting your son to bed, use the phone for two hours.)
Okay.
(Please keep your promise.)
I can't believe we are rejoicing over that.
Seriously.
Let's see how many votes Su Hyun's worry got.
Show us the result.
This is the first worry of today.
They will win.
I'm sure of it.
- They will win. - The numbers are going up.
Many people pressed the button.
(Will it set a new record?)
It can't go over 200 votes.
It's 152.
(I can't believe some people didn't vote.)
(She became the strong front runner with 152 votes.)
- This is "Where Is Your Father?" - "Where Is Your Father?"
Su Hyun's husband is no help even when he's around.
This worry concerns another problematic father.
All right.
Hello, I am a 27-year-old woman...
who is raising a child in first grade.
First grade?
Each morning, I get ready for work and drop the kid off at the school.
Each night, I wash the kid and help him with his homework.
I have a busy schedule.
You might say that all working mums lead a busy life...
but I'm not even married.
I am not married.
The child is my nephew,
- my brother's son. - I see.
(The child is her nephew.)
"There is a parent-teacher conference..."
"at your son's school tomorrow."
"You can go."
My goodness.
My brother got divorced six years ago.
He doesn't take care of his own son.
I was thrust into playing the role of a mother.
- What is wrong with dads? - "Sir,"
"I will need to take a day off tomorrow."
"Again? What is the reason this time?"
"There is a parent-teacher conference. I'm sorry."
"Gosh, this happens too often."
There is more.
"Dad, please buy me chicken."
"Ask your aunt."
"Dad, let's go to the playground."
"Ask your aunt."
"Go to your aunt."
My life is a mess because my brother won't do his job.
This happens when I go on a date.
"Did you bring your nephew again?"
"When will we ever get to spend time on our own?"
"I've had enough."
"I'm sick of it now. Let's break up."
(Her boyfriend broke up with her.)
That's how my relationship ended.
My brother takes no responsibility as a father.
Please help him come to his senses.
(Please help him.)
Is this a special episode on immature and shameless fathers?
That means that this woman has raised her nephew...
- since she was 20 years old. - That's right.
If we look back to when we were 20 years old,
- we were incredibly young. - Seriously.
There are a lot of single dads these days,
but they mostly worry about raising a child on their own.
It's interesting the child's aunt is left with such worries.
It's interesting.
- It's absurd. - That's right.
All right.
Please come on out.
(Who is worried about her irresponsible brother?)
(Nam Min Ju)
Did your boyfriend really break up with you...
because of your nephew?
Yes.
- No way! - It happened two years ago, right?
That's why he broke up with me.
I often brought my nephew on our dates.
He said, "Until when will you bring him on our dates?"
Are you the only one who's taking care of the child?
Your brother is the father.
When I was 21 years old,
my brother got divorced.
I've been living with my nephew for about six years.
Your brother is...
It seems like he doesn't know that he's the father.
- He doesn't? - No.
He tells me to look after the child and leaves the house.
(You can look after the child.)
How many hours a day do you spend with your nephew?
- Enough to get her dumped. - Seriously.
When my nephew was young,
I fed him with baby formula and changed his diapers.
Now that I have a job,
I'm always with him except the hours that I work.
- You spend all your free time? - Yes.
You need time to meet friends and acquaintances.
I missed out on many get together just to take care of my nephew.
Even during team dinners, his homework is on my mind.
- No one else will do it. - Do you leave early then?
I eat dinner with my team.
After that, I tell them that I need to go home.
When I arrive home, I help him with his homework.
You're like his mother.
- You are his mother. - Seriously.
Is your nephew here?
Yes, he is.
However, I thought hearing me talk about my struggles...
- might hurt his feelings. - It might.
I left him in the waiting room. He is still young.
- It's a legitimate concern. - It really is.
Do you often take a leave of absence because of him?
- I get one day off every month. - Right.
I use it for my nephew.
- I go to his school. - For class visits, right?
Yes, I go to class visits, athletic meets...
and talent shows.
I take a leave of absence for those occasions.
We should talk to her brother.
We need to ask him.
He can't be her brother, can he?
- They look alike. - He looks very nice.
- He wouldn't look irresponsible. - He looks like a nice man.
Su Hyun's husband didn't look irresponsible, either.
- You are right. - Don't judge a person by his looks.
- It was quite a shock. - Where are you?
Hello, it's nice to meet you.
- That's her brother. - Introduce yourself...
however you'd like.
You say that I'm immature,
- but I disagree. - Is that so?
I am a single dad, Nam Sang Hyun.
It's nice to meet you.
Why do you make your sister look after your son?
I am a salesperson.
My working hours are not fixed.
When I leave for work, my son is sleeping.
When I come back home around 8pm or 9pm,
my son is about to go to bed.
My schedule keeps me away.
It seems like your brother has a legitimate reason.
- He's too busy. - He's lying.
Is he lying?
Why do you say that?
He is a salesperson.
He often tells me that he is meeting a customer...
so I assume that he is working and I look after my nephew.
On SNS, he would post pictures of him riding his motorcycle...
and drinking coffee with his friends.
He recently took a three days trip to Jeju Island.
He posted all the pictures he took.
- Did he post the pictures? - Yes.
He's foolish.
We have those pictures. Let's take a look.
He went to Jeju Island.
He's having the fun of his life.
(He went to Jeju Island, rode a motorcycle,)
(and watched a musical.)
- He even watched a musical. - He's enjoying his life.
Look at him.
That's Jeju Island.
He is free spirited. How cool!
You work hard as a salesperson, don't you?
The hash tags were "Relaxation" and "Let's have fun."
It looks like he's working hard.
What did you do when he was having fun?
I looked after my nephew.
I looked after him when my brother went to Jeju Island.
It was my birthday, too.
She was left with her nephew on her birthday.
Did you know it was her birthday when you went on a trip?
Well...
I know when my sister's birthday is.
I don't think it was that day.
- Is it true? - When is her birthday?
- Is he right? - It's April 26th.
- Is it your birthday? - He's right.
It's the day he went to Jeju Island.
I see.
- She is right. - Victims are always...
the ones to remember.
Perpetrators forget.
You were caught lying. Please explain yourself.
Why do you keep leaving your son behind?
The thing is...
I have a habit.
I can't stay at home all day. There are people like that.
We understand.
- I need time off, too. - Of course you do.
That's why I went on a trip. I needed time for relaxation.
How often do you meet friends?
How many times in a week do you meet your friends?
In a week?
About seven times.
He meets his friends every day.
While listening to him, Su Hyun's husband...
is shaking his head.
Are you serious?
- He shook his head. - Really?
My goodness.
He is incredibly immature.
(It's a close match.)
Does the child like his dad?
Does he want to play with him?
He does. He really likes his dad.
Between me and his dad, he always chooses his dad.
- Really? That's a relief. - Yes.
- But he doesn't play with his son. - Do family members say anything?
They do...
but my father doesn't talk to my brother anymore.
I see. What about your mother?
- My mother? - Does she say anything?
She goes through a lot of struggles.
When I'm at work,
she takes my nephew to the playground.
She must be exhausted.
Ma'am, it must be a struggle to take care of your grandson.
It's unspeakable.
You're speaking now.
- Tell us about it. - Tell us of your struggles today...
and lift the burden from your heart.
When my son was 21 years old,
he announced that he has a child.
- I was very taken aback. - Of course you were.
I have never felt...
so betrayed by my son.
He wasn't married...
when he got a woman pregnant.
- No, he was only 21 years old. - I see.
Because he was so young,
I asked him not to register the marriage.
I told him about it...
but he registered the marriage without telling me.
- Yes. I'm sure it makes her sad. - It must be hard for her.
What was the hardest part for you?
As you know, I've been looking after his son...
but I've never been able to tell people about it.
I had to lie to everyone that he's my nephew, not my grandson.
Whenever my friends and other guests were visiting,
I had to hide all of my grandson's stuff.
I ran around like a headless chicken to hide his stuff.
Not being able to tell people that he's my grandson...
was the hardest part.
- I'm sure you felt sorry, too. - Yes, I was so sorry.
Does your heart aches when you see your daughter?
Yes, I feel so sorry.
About what?
When I have to go out for appointments or urgent errands,
I take my grandson to her office and let her look after him.
- You take him to her work? - Yes.
- Your daughter's office? - Yes.
Is that even possible?
Yes. I take him to the staff lounge.
I give him my mobile phone and say, "Play this game."
Then I work.
- You let him play games? - That's dangerous.
Games can be addictive.
I can't really focus on work knowing that he's there.
I also get worried about what my colleagues would think.
I have no idea what my brother was up to when this happened.
I had something important to take care of. I couldn't cancel it.
- Tell me about it. - Did this happen only once?
- It was work related and... - Related to your business?
- Yes, that's correct. - Something to do with motorcycles?
- Jeju Island? - No, it's not about motorcycles.
- Canola flowers? - Tell us.
His friend is also here. Let's meet him.
- Hello. It's nice to meet you. - Hello.
Hello. I'm the dad's best friend, Kim Yun.
Did you go to Jeju Island with him?
No, I couldn't go because of work.
Good. Everyone was ready to bash you.
(You're lucky.)
As a friend, how do you feel when you see him?
I also think he's pathetic.
- In what way? - When we go out together,
we ask him what his son is doing.
Then he just says, "I guess my mum or my sister is looking after him."
He hangs out with us until very late at night.
He even once dropped off his son at my place and went out.
Pardon?
- How could he do that? - You babysat your friend's kid?
No one else was available so I fed and played with him...
for a couple of hours.
I also gave him a piggyback ride.
I can understand that he'd want to go out because he's still young,
but he can't behave like that when he's in that situation.
Does your brother give you money at all then?
I've never received a penny from him in my life.
Not even once.
- Are you serious? - He doesn't give me allowance.
People usually give their parents a bit of money every month...
- when they look after their kids. - That's right.
I'm sure he gives something to his mum.
I want to ask his mother.
- Do you get anything from him? - Does he give you allowance?
I don't get any money from him.
- I thought so. - Seriously?
First of all, my financial situation...
isn't that great right now.
We saw you in that open top car earlier.
You do all those things.
I guess it's a bad habit of mine.
I tend to splurge. I'm aware of it.
As you know, I started my own business at a young age.
I honestly made quite a bit of money at that age.
All right. Let's stop talking about the past and talk about the present.
What's your current income? Please tell us the exact amount.
I make about 2,000 dollars a month.
If your monthly income is 2,000 dollars,
how much of it do you spend for your kid?
How much of it goes to your kid?
She's telling him everything.
"The extra curricular class is 100 dollars."
- Is that all he spends? - For his education,
I spend about 200 to 300 dollars a month for his school...
and for his other educational needs.
Aside from that, I also take him out once in a while...
and buy him expensive meals.
- So I spend... - All fathers do that though.
- It's nothing special. - Even your friends would do it.
So he bought him a meal, right?
That's what he is saying, right?
"People, I took my son out for nice meals, okay?"
"I bought my son some food."
- Exactly. - It's what all fathers do.
He said, "I pay for his classes, too."
- Exactly. - "I even pay for his classes."
- What is he thinking? - I think...
He never used to spend a penny.
My mum used to pay for my nephew's classes.
- My goodness. - When my nephew was...
starting primary school, she told him to start paying for the classes.
She told him to pay...
but he missed payments for two or three months.
- He didn't pay? - How many months?
Due to the nature of my work,
I don't always have money saved. I set up automatic payments...
but missed a few because I didn't have enough money in my account.
How much do you spend on coffee on a daily basis?
- How much coffee do you drink? - Be honest.
I spend about 10 to 20 dollars.
- Every day? - In a day?
- That's a lot in a day. - He spends 20 dollars?
This is too much. I'd understand if he doesn't have a kid.
When you have a kid,
the focus of your life has to be your kid, not yourself,
but he's not doing that at all.
- He's... - Is that why you look so upset now?
Yes.
Show us that face you just made.
(I want to teach you a lesson.)
Yoo Jung is right. It's your responsibility.
Why should your mother and sister take care of everything?
- When you raise a kid, - Ask his sister.
your heart breaks the most when your kid is sick.
How did you handle those moments?
My nephew was once hospitalised for two weeks due to pneumonia.
- That must've been heartbreaking. - I went to the hospital every day.
I wanted to make sure that he was okay.
Except for checking him in and out of the hospital...
Your brother never visited?
For two weeks?
Was there another time he got sick?
When my nephew has fever, he usually can't open his eyes.
- I see. - Of course, I was so worried.
- I tried to cool him down with Mum. - You must've stayed up all night.
Then my brother came home around 2am...
and asked us, "Is he still sick?"
I'm curious. What will you do after your sister gets married?
She won't be able to babysit your kid as often anymore.
Will you just depend on your mum?
- I can live next door to her. - Pardon me?
It will solve the problem.
You'll move so that you can continue asking her to babysit your son?
I think we can help out each other.
Say hi to the husband from earlier. You two are equally clueless.
You two would make great friends.
They both act like they're 14 or 15 years old.
(They both act like teenagers.)
They're both immature and clueless.
Is there a reason why you're so good to your nephew?
You go above and beyond for him.
- I just feel really bad for him. - I see.
- When my mum has to go somewhere... - Yes.
(Just thinking about her nephew makes her tear up.)
- You get worried. - I feel so bad.
- When my mum goes out, - You're worried he might get sick.
she calls my brother and tells him to look after my nephew...
and my nephew sees that.
I think he can sense the tension between them.
I babysit him on days like that and he doesn't even say a word.
It must sadden him. I think he feels like he's burdening us.
I think he internalises those feelings without saying anything,
- so I get sad. - He's just a kid.
From what I'm seeing, she doesn't dislike...
looking after her nephew. She really cares about him.
Did you decide to come here today because you're worried about him?
He's still very young.
He's still at an age when he needs much love from his parents.
However, my brother is not being a loving parent.
I even used to think this.
"Shall I register him as my son in the family register?"
You thought about registering him as your own son?
I used to wonder if I should do that.
I've saved up a bit of money.
My mum tells me that I should use it when I get married.
- For your wedding? - Yes.
The school that my nephew is attending now is pretty small.
I'd like to transfer him to a better school in a better area.
I'm saving money because I want my family to move together.
- She really loves her nephew. - I know.
She wanted to register him as her son.
- She thought about that. - She's like his mum.
She's thinking about his education.
- That's how mothers think. - Exactly.
She wants to create an environment for him...
where he can meet good friends and study at a good school.
In a way, her brother is doing this because he knows...
- how much she loves his son. - That's right.
- That's totally right. - Actually,
my nephew is getting married on June 11th.
I'll be free after his wedding is done.
As soon as his wedding is over, I'm going to let myself go.
I'll date two men at the same time and try to have a lot of fun.
- It's because... - Start with dating one man.
In my case,
my brother-in-law passed away early.
My sister couldn't make money.
So I had to...
She practically raised her nephew.
I also wanted to register him as my own son.
I couldn't do all the things I wanted to do...
because that was the only way I could provide my sister's kids...
with the support they needed until they graduate from university.
The youngest one is getting married on June 11th,
but he didn't buy me a hanbok dress for the wedding.
That's why you shouldn't be too good to your nephew.
(Don't be too good to him!)
That's my conclusion.
(He is sweating.)
There's something I'd like to tell his sister and his mother.
Because of the situation, they must be most concerned...
about the absence of his mother.
- That's right. - It must break their heart.
However, the sister is completely filling his mother's place.
I'm sure it isn't easy for her but it's good for the kid.
His grandmother also gives him the maternal love.
The problem is the dad,
- the absence of the paternal love. - That's a bigger problem.
You love your son and care about him a lot, right?
- Yes. - You're just too busy for him.
Then do you know a lot about your son?
- Yes, I do. - Do you know about his daily life?
If that's the case, we'll find out how much you know about him.
I'll ask you a few questions about him.
Which grade and class is he in now?
He's currently in Class Three...
of grade one.
- What's the right answer? - Class One.
(Class One of the first grade)
How could you not know which class he's in?
What's your son's shoe size?
- Hold my right hand. - It's between 100 and 110mm.
- What? - It's between 100 and 110mm.
- Did you say 100 to 110mm? - He's in grade one!
He's in grade one!
- Kids under two wear that size. - Do you know anything about him?
- That's for kids under two. - What's his shoe size?
- 200mm. - His shoe size is 200mm.
- You were off by 90mm. - Exactly.
What's the name of your son's best friend?
To be honest, that question is...
Do you know the answer or not?
- Tell us the answer. - I don't know.
(He got an F on this test.)
You're her brother and also a father to your son.
You do feel sorry at times, right?
I went to the talent show at his kindergarten once.
I went on the stage to receive a prize.
- Stage? - My son said...
You should stop going clubbing so often.
(Please stop going out at night.)
That word just rolled off his tongue.
It's because of what I do.
I work in events.
I won a prize for being the youngest father.
I said to my son I'm grateful that he's grown into a good kid.
That was a touching moment. I tear up, too.
- I felt so apologetic. - You got emotional.
You're getting a bit emotional now as well.
It's because you became a father at such a young age...
and is not prepared for it.
I'm sure it was a lot for you to handle.
- Yes, I can understand. - I understand that part.
Your parents told you to wait to put your son in the family register,
but you did it right away.
I think you did that because you felt responsible as his father.
Why did you decide to go against your parents and register your son?
I actually had many arguments with my mum because of it.
I didn't want to feel like I was lying about myself all the time.
He's my son. I made my decision when he was born.
So you did it because you wanted to take responsibility, right?
Yes.
If your mother and sister weren't around,
what would your life be?
Let me ask you.
- It must've been difficult. - It must've been very challenging.
Yes, I agree.
Then are you willing to change at all?
Yes, I'm always making efforts.
- He's driving me crazy. - You need to try harder.
I'm willing to try harder.
You can't say that you're willing to try.
- He's your son. - Say, "I will try harder."
- Yes, you're right. - He's your own son.
- Yes. I will try harder. - You must try harder.
All right. Please say a few words to your brother.
Don't dump your son...
on me and Mum all the time.
There are many things that he hasn't tried yet.
I hope you can do those things with him.
You should say a few words to your nephew as well.
- Say something to your nephew. - Go ahead.
I'm sorry for not telling you who your dad is when you were young.
(I'm sorry that I couldn't tell you.)
I'll help you to spend...
more time with your dad.
I love you.
(I love you.)
Ho Young, let's start with you.
Okay. I pressed the button because I definitely think...
that it's a worry.
Don't say that you'll be good to him later because you're busy now.
Please try to spend more time with him and show your love.
Please try harder to become a better dad.
- All right. - Ji Ae, it's your turn.
I also think it's a worry.
The change in the dad's attitude will greatly improve...
the level of happiness for his mum, sister and son.
- Change now. - Let's move on to Yoo Jung.
Okay. I also think it's a worry.
- You should be more responsible. - Right.
Woo Yeol, it's your turn.
Yes. It's definitely a worry.
I tried putting myself in the sister's shoes.
I know that she loves her nephew dearly...
but I'm sure she thinks about her own life once in a while.
If she continues to focus only on her nephew,
she could end up resenting the situation and her nephew.
I'm a little concerned about it.
She must be happy with her own life first in order to love...
her nephew more and to give a chance for the dad to be with his son.
Please press the button if you empathise with this worry!
(What does the audience think?)
Many people are pressing the button.
- Five, four, three, two, one. - Five, four, three, two, one.
- Time's up! - All right.
Sir, I'm sure you learned many things today.
What the two stories have in common...
is that both of you smile so easily.
You should take this chance...
to say a few words to your sister.
I'm sorry because I didn't realise that it was such a big problem.
I'll do my best to change as soon as possible.
- You really mean it, right? - Yes.
- We will visit you. - Please do.
I'll ask you to do one more thing.
Please show us how much you love your son.
Please shout it out three times that you love your son.
- Say, "You're my son." - Yes. Believe in yourself.
Son, I love you!
I love you! I love you!
Say, "You're my son."
You're my son!
(I'll be a better father to you.)
(Don't ever forget that!)
I trust that he'll change because he learned a lot today.
I want to know how many votes this story got.
"Pay Attention to Me" got 152 votes.
Please show us the result!
(The result)
- This is nerve wrecking. - They're both big worries.
- It might exceed 152 votes. - Did I see 169?
- Is it 169 or 159? - Did it get 169 votes?
What's the result?
- It was short by three votes. - Just three votes.
She would've won if he hadn't spilled the milk earlier.
Yes, it's because of that milk.
(Please stop reminding me of it.)
Thank you for joining us today.
(Survived)
The next story is "I'm a Fighter".
The genre of this story is a little bit different.
It's from a lady in her 50s.
Hello.
I'm in my 50s and I live in Chuncheon.
These days, couples get divorced after many years of marriage.
I'm also seriously considering divorce these days.
My husband makes me live in a state of constant anxiety.
This happened 10 years ago.
(What is wrong with him?)
(What happened to him?)
- Why? - What is the matter?
(What in the world happened to her husband?)
"Gosh, what happened to you?"
"Did you dislocate your jaw?"
"That young punk punched my jaw and..."
(Fix my jaw.)
He dislocated his jaw when he was...
practising boxing with young guys.
"Gosh, what a disaster!"
"Look at this! How did you get this wound?"
"Did someone hit you?"
"Just be quiet if you don't know anything."
"You need to take punches to be good at boxing."
The problem is the fact that my husband...
is 70 years old now!
(He practises boxing at the age of 70?)
I have to say that it's very impressive.
He should be celebrating his 70th birthday.
Aren't you all impressed?
- Yes! - Yes!
Now, think that he's your father.
(Even just the thought scares us!)
- I think he's so cool. - This is a totally different worry.
"Honey, think about your age."
"It can kill you."
"Be quiet!"
"Stop talking like a fool!"
"I'll take care of my own health so mind your own business."
He doesn't even care about how much he's worrying his family.
Please help me change my husband. I'm so sorry!
(Please stop my husband!)
What do you think about this story, Ho Young?
It's so scary. I say that because...
your body's ability to recover...
drops significantly when you're older.
He got his jaw dislocated from the match.
- Imagine that... - "Ho Young!"
your father is in a Muay Thai match wearing this thing on his head.
- That's crazy. - No way.
- It scares you. - Totally.
I can empathise with this worry 100 percent.
I love snowboarding,
but she hates it because she doesn't want me to get injured.
- I see. - I thought it was love...
but she's more worried about looking after me and our kid alone.
(She'll have to do everything on her own.)
- You won't be able to help out. - That's exactly it.
(Reality comes before love!)
Let's meet her now.
The wife who is worried about her husband. Please come on out!
(Let's meet the lady who is worried about her husband!)
Here she comes.
(Hong Jung Soon)
(Welcome to the show!)
Your story shocked everyone.
Did your husband work in a field related to sports?
Not at all. He was a civil service worker.
After he retired, he decided to become...
- the world's oldest fighter. - World's oldest fighter?
- He wants to become one. - Yes.
- That's his goal. - Yes.
- When he got into his 50s, - Right.
he started boxing.
Then he got inclined to Mixed Martial Arts two years ago.
It's a very tough sport.
But some people think that exercising hard...
- could be good for health. - That's right.
He gets injured too often though.
It was a match with three two minutes rounds.
He got totally beaten up by that young guy...
and got his jaw dislocated.
- Yes, it was in your story. - Yes. He couldn't even eat.
Did you actually watch the match?
It's hard for us to watch things like that because we are his family.
- In bad cases... - He can end up with fractures.
- I'm sure you've tried to stop him. - Yes.
I guess he doesn't listen to you.
My husband is 15 years older than me.
(He's 15 years older.)
So whenever I try to say anything to him,
he goes, "How dare you!"
- That's what he says. - "How dare you!"
- Did he say that? - "How dare you!"
When he says that...
I can't believe he says that to his wife.
"How dare you!"
Is he like that only about exercising...
or is he like that about everything else?
He can't stand injustice.
- I knew it. - That's why he likes that sport.
Whenever he spots...
- Delinquents? - anyone doing something bad,
he goes up to them, whether they're big or small,
- and shouts at them. - "How dare you!"
That's why I'm always afraid.
- You must be worried. - How did you meet?
We met through a mutual friend.
That friend told me that...
he doesn't have much but he's strong.
How accurate.
- It's so true. - He's strong.
- Did you like that? - A man...
- should have a masculine side. - That's true.
That's a charm.
- But he's... - That's it.
He's too strong.
Does he have nothing but energy?
Let's meet her husband whose dream is...
to become the oldest fighter in the world.
Where are you? That must be him.
Salute.
(Who wants to be the world's oldest fighter?)
Take the mic.
- Salute. - Push your cap up.
- Push it up. - This is my look.
We can't see your face.
(He lifts a little.)
- Can't you push it back? - It's a mask.
I'm trying to cover my eyes.
- Are you? - We need to see your handsome face.
I'll lift it up slightly.
(I give you this much.)
Salute.
Why do you want to cover your face?
Because I can't let my opponent see my eyes.
(A strong man's survival instinct)
(What's wrong with the men today?)
Sir, we're not here to fight with you.
You're not here to fight with us.
It's okay. We're not fighting.
I was a petty marine officer.
- He's strong. - He is.
We were told to wear our cap...
in order to cover our eyebrows.
Push it back up, please.
(I shouldn't be doing this.)
I'm not supposed to reveal my location to the enemy.
That's how it works.
What did you think when your wife said you had to come on "Hello"?
I didn't think it would be this kind of atmosphere.
"This kind of atmosphere"?
Did you think we'd spar here?
(Did he come here to fight?)
I had some things that I wanted to say.
I thought if I explain myself, people would understand.
That's why you're here.
If too many people object,
- I am willing to quit. - Are you really?
(He's willing to change his ways.)
Well done.
- Are you still up for it? - I changed my mind.
(I've changed my mind.)
- Really? - Why?
Why?
The atmosphere here...
You side with the weak.
- I don't approve of the concept. - He's nodding.
Will you stop nodding?
(Stop nodding!)
He keeps nodding.
I'll make them promise.
Will you be objective?
- Yes! - Yes!
(Let's end this today.)
Sir, why do you flare up whenever she wants you to stop?
If she had any logic,
then I'd be willing to discuss things with her.
She doesn't follow any kind of logic.
She tells me to quit exercising out of the blue.
"What if you dislocate your jaw again?"
If I let her continue, I'll have to answer or explain everything.
I'd rather cut her off right there...
so that she doesn't continue her ranting.
Is that why you say, "How dare you?"
I don't say that.
I say, "Shut up. Be quiet."
- "Shut up." - "Shut up."
I want her to stop.
- She's concerned for you. - If I don't do that,
both of them will attack me all the time.
- It's a concern. - You know...
how men don't like it when women nag repeatedly.
So I try to shut her out in advance.
In advance?
She isn't your enemy, is she?
I don't shout at her all the time.
I draw a line and when I tell her,
she shouldn't cross it for fear of a nuclear war.
- A nuclear war? Are there mines? - Wait.
Why did you pick such an aggressive sport?
Boxing and martial arts are rough sports.
I want to overcome myself.
To overcome yourself?
I can't beat anyone if I can't beat myself.
I had cancer once...
and a stent procedure in my heart.
I also have diabetes and I thought that...
the amount of exercise I'm doing is equivalent to my health level.
My goal was to try extra hard...
and break all the age barriers.
That's why I ride a 1,100cc motorcycle.
- He rides a motorcycle, too. - I...
(A strong man's essential)
It's just like what he said.
He works out to stay in good health.
- Right. - Don't you understand that?
But he isn't healthy.
He had a surgery for rectal cancer seven or eight years ago...
and required chemotherapy.
Three years ago, he suffered from angina pectoris during a fight.
- Oh, dear. - Because of the sport?
- He had a stent procedure. - In his heart?
He shouldn't tire himself out or do anything...
- physically taxing. - That's right.
- Boxing is very physical. - It is.
- You can barely breathe. - Right.
That's why I worry about his health.
- It's the most tiring sport. - It is.
The rest of your family must be concerned.
Let's meet your youngest daughter. How are you?
- Hello. - Welcome.
What is your position...
- about his exercise? - I'm totally against it.
- Totally against it? - Yes.
He works out to a point where I think it's a mental issue.
- Have you seen him fight? - Yes. It's serious.
I saw him spar with a young man.
He pants much more...
and I can tell he's struggling.
Whenever Mum tells him to stop, he says things like,
"Stop acting like a fool."
(He says worse things.)
"Be quiet."
She's a woman, too.
I feel sorry for her.
Other than playing some aggressive sports,
I don't think your father is the kind of guy...
who causes problems.
- But he is. - Why?
- He doesn't care about us. - What?
He cares about others.
- He's like that. - Yes.
He lives in a place...
famous for its streams.
It's a tourist spot...
- in the summer. - I see.
He set up a portable toilet.
- Did he? - Yes.
He set it up for them to use...
but Mum did the rest.
- How? - She cleaned it for two years.
Men who look out for others all have that same problem.
They start with it but the wives clean up.
Your daughter brought up an issue that isn't about sports.
After his workout at the gym,
I drive all his friends home.
Do you drive them home?
When they have dinner together,
I get a call.
"My car is at this place. Come and wait."
- Dinners usually drag on. - They do.
I wait for two, three hours.
- Like a manager. - When they leave,
- I... - Do you drive them home?
I drop everyone off...
and then we get to go home.
How many people are there?
I'd say about 20 people.
(Shocked)
Sometimes...
Do you drive all of them home?
Because that's what he wants me to do.
- This is a worry. - I think...
this is an even worse worry.
What worries you more, the driving or the exercising?
It can't be helped.
She's so sweet.
- All the wives are too nice. - They are.
- We have three angels. - They're all angels.
- I wish they could live separately. - Me too.
(This would be paradise.)
I think you should care about your family...
as much as you care about strangers.
- You need to speak up. - Tell us if he upset you.
What upsets me the most is...
four years ago, I had my back surgery.
- I see. - I have steel pins in my spine.
Because of that, my back hurts sometimes.
When I told him about it, he just said,
"Go to the hospital." Then he left.
That really upset me.
Shouldn't you have taken her to see a doctor?
I have a set of schedule. I go to the gym from 2 to 4pm.
She said her back hurt two days in a row,
and wanted to see a doctor on the third day.
I thought she was trying...
- to stop me from working out. - Oh, I see.
So he thought she made it up...
- to ruin his exercise. - Bingo.
(Bingo)
Is this the first time you told him...
how you felt when you were in pain?
No, I told him many times.
We once had a few drinks...
near our house in the countryside.
I gathered some courage and brought it up...
on our way back home.
Countryside roads are dimly lit.
It's dark and dangerous.
It rained that night, too.
He got sick of listening...
so he walked on...
- leaving me behind. - In the middle of the night?
I walked home alone in tears.
I stopped trying after that.
Why did you leave her there?
On a dark countryside road...
We both had a drink.
She was more drunk.
And you still left her there?
(That's even worse.)
I thought that if I listened to her,
she'd go even further the next time.
- Sir. - I wanted to put an end to it.
A real man gives in to his wife.
She wouldn't know this...
but I called a friend in town.
I told him to find my wife...
and bring her home for me.
- What do you think? - Did the friend come?
Did his friend come to pick you up?
I can't remember. I was too drunk.
(I was really drunk.)
You must have drunk a lot.
I think there's a problem with the husband's attitude.
The wife is trying to build up the courage...
to discuss the issue...
- but the husband cuts her off. - He stops her in advance.
- That's why it happens repeatedly. - That's right.
Rather than the exercising,
your lack of communication could be a more serious issue.
You prevent it before it happens.
We communicate well.
Why won't you let her speak?
- Why? - Just listen.
- Well... - Yes?
Like I said earlier, I was a petty marine officer.
I fought in Vietnam.
That experience traumatised me.
I used to get the impression that everyone around me...
was out to harm or attack me.
When my wife speaks to me in an accusatory tone,
I wonder if she's a friend or a foe.
Of course, I wonder if she's a spy or not.
That used to be a problem.
My condition was so serious that I kept weapons in my car.
In case I was attacked.
- It's the trauma. - But now,
I'm 90 percent cured so I'm almost normal.
My uncle fought in Vietnam, too.
He always protected us.
Whenever he heard a sound, he jumped up to check...
- even though it was nothing. - It's the trauma.
Yes.
You only protect yourself.
Am I wrong?
My uncle wasn't at all like that.
That's why I said it.
- Good. - The biggest problem is...
ever since he started working out two years ago,
he stopped paying the expenses.
Now I'm the breadwinner.
- Do you work? - Yes.
It's not that easy.
Once a month, he buys a potful of ginseng,
boils it and drinks everything.
For himself?
He drinks it to stay strong.
What I'm saying is that it'll be over soon.
I like a song called "Life Is Incomplete".
I looked back and saw that my life is incomplete.
My father died when I was four in the Korean War.
I joined the Army when I was in college...
and I never graduated.
I left the army as a sergeant first class...
so I didn't go all the way.
I'd never completed anything in my life.
I only went half way.
Now I'm nearly there. I just need to fight once.
- When will you stop? - When you become the world's best?
I will reach...
my peak as a fighter around the end of the year.
I asked for a match to be set up...
at the end of March.
- Will that be your last fight? - It'll be over then.
So next spring will be it.
I'll be done in March.
When everything is done,
will you pay the expenses again?
- Will you? - I promised I would.
She doesn't believe me.
- Now the whole nation knows. - That's right.
People will point at me if I break my word.
I think we have a deal.
One last thing. You need to listen when your wife talks...
instead of cutting her off and shouting at her.
That's a concern as well.
She starts off saying, "Stop working out."
From the start?
To me, that sounds like a challenge.
That's why I think...
she's attacking me again.
- That's how I feel. - Is it an attack?
I shout because that's the only way to make her back off.
I see.
She's the only fan who will never turn against you.
I hope you can chat more.
Is there anything you'd like to say?
I want you to care more about our family.
(You should care about your family.)
- She's very upset. - She kept it confined.
When you're fighting in the ring,
we won't be able to watch it.
I want you to leave the ring...
because I love you.
Seeing a loved one struggle...
as they fight someone else...
- is hard. - She loves you.
I thought he was wiping a tear. He's wiping his mouth.
(He's wiping his mouth.)
- Really? - I thought he was crying.
He's a real man.
Let's wrap it up.
What did you all think?
It's heartbreaking so I think it's a worry.
You said you'll stop after next spring...
so keep your word and focus on your family after that.
I decided that it's not a worry.
I think he's the type of guy who keeps his word...
and really takes good care of himself.
I say it's not a worry.
- Yoo Jung. - I don't think it's a worry.
She's here because she loves you a lot.
You know that, right?
Give in to her.
I think it's a worry...
but I want him to look after himself.
I hope they can become happier after this.
I think it's a worry.
Like you said, life is incomplete...
but if I dare comment on that,
his marriage life is the most incomplete thing.
(We agree.)
(Work towards a happy marriage life.)
The balance shifts in middle aged couples.
Men grow weaker and women grow stronger.
You need to prepare for that in advance...
so you can maintain a balanced relationship.
If you think this is a concern for the wife,
please press your button.
(What does the audience think?)
- Five, four, three, two, one. - Five, four, three, two, one.
- Time's up. - Time's up.
Say something to your wife.
I kept my promise 100 percent.
Oh, not 100 percent.
(He's in full control.)
Something whizzed by in his mind.
When it comes to fighting in the ring,
there are ways to play safe like the use of larger gloves.
I will take good care of myself...
so I hope we can all become one happy family.
I love you.
Sir, you might not have a licence but you did your best...
to protect your country and family.
That makes you a hero.
Give him a warm hand.
(Grinning)
- Thank you. - You're a hero.
(Thank you.)
He took his cap off.
Your eyes.
Sir, show us your eyes.
You can't take your cap off.
(A manly gaze)
Sir, your life is complete.
You fought for your country.
Thank you for making it official.
Your marriage life is up to you two.
Okay. I'll work towards completing it.
That was "I'm a Fighter".
The current winner has 152 votes.
Let's see the result.
(The result)
Will we have a tie?
Is it a tie?
(Will it be a tie with 152 votes?)
152?
We wish you the best.
"Pay Attention to Me" is our new winner.
You get a 1,000 dollars gift certificate.
Until the day we are all worry free,
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Thank you. - Thank you.
("L.I.E" by EXID)